I have recently read that you can't change a person - you can only change YOUR reactions to them.
But HOW do you do this?
One person X is a kind of colleague who I see regularly (can't avoid really)
I do want to like this person but I do get that it's no big deal if I can't make my reactions to X change but their behaviour is very superior when my head tells me that there's a lot of insecurity there. X makes my blood boil sometimes but I also pity x because of the insecurity and because I suspect that because of the need to impress that a few more friends would be a good thing. I can't see us ever being more than acquaintances/colleagues though.
I can't get over how someone who isn't such a big part of my life winds me up in this way though.
The second person Z is a relation by marriage. I have another thread running in chat which is vaguely related to this.
I want to love Z but there is a massive sense of entitlement there which pushes DH and I away. Z also treats PILS appallingly which infuriates and enrages me.
Any advice as to how I can be more zen about this gratefully received..
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Non-romantic relationship question - when someone you want to like/love drives you crazy?
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BelindaBanana · 20/07/2015 19:19
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