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He's leaving me. Devastated.

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SurroundedByBoxes Thu 16-Jul-15 12:22:55

Six years together, married five. One DD, 5.

He's been seriously clinically depressed and now he's out the other side. He dropped the bombshell a month ago that he wasn't happy in our marriage. Said he feels like he's had no life. We've had four counselling sessions because he said he wanted to make things work. This morning he said he was pessimistic. This led on to him making the decision to leave. There's definitely no one else involved.

I thought things were getting better. I am broken.

Ohfourfoxache Thu 16-Jul-15 12:46:05

No advice I'm afraid but didn't want to read and run xx

shovetheholly Thu 16-Jul-15 12:51:27

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It isn't fair.

Sometimes these things happen and they are not your fault. It's awful and it shakes your trust not only in the person but in the world. You wonder how you could have missed the signs, what you could have done to have prevented it. The answer is - nothing. Because it's not you who tore the relationship apart.

I know that the only thing you probably want right now is for things to go back to 'normal'. But even if he were to come back and beg for forgiveness, this whole thing still happened and getting beyond that will be very, very difficult indeed. I don't think there are many human beings who are happy in an insecure and uncertain relationship. And frankly, it doesn't sound like he is worth that pain.

Please hang in there. If you can tell people in real life, and get some people around you, it will help tremendously. Sending you love.

SurroundedByBoxes Thu 16-Jul-15 13:02:20

Thank you both for replying.
I feel like such an idiot. All those times I've told people how strong and loving our relationship is and now it has failed. I truly thought we were indestructible.

Ohfourfoxache Thu 16-Jul-15 14:54:06

You're not an idiot sweetheart thanks

You were in a happy marriage and this is a bombshell. How on earth were you supposed to know?

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