My husband left ten months ago. We sort of carried on spending time together and sometimes sleeping together until a couple of months ago, partly due to the DC, partly due to us. However, the arguments that caused the separation continued and a few months ago my husband said he didn't love me, in fact, couldn't stand me and would rather 'lose his kids' than have to live with me and he didn't think our marriage could work. He had been emotionally abusive for a while before he left, although I was no angel.
Not long after I went on a date with someone else. Probably too soon, but I was hurt and lonely and I thought it would probably be a one off really, I was still in love with my husband and didn't think I'd like anyone else. We've now seen each other quite a few times and slept together and I really like him. He makes me feel amazing, is so attentive and lovely.
The thing is, I can't imagine a future with my DC and anyone else except my husband. I feel so sad for them. I have told my husband how I feel and although he keeps saying he doesn't think our marriage can work, he has said he would go to marriage counselling. He still maintains he doesn't love me but loves our DC.
I feel like the right thing to do is give the marriage another go, but if there was only me to consider and no DC to consider then I would leave and pursue the new relationship, even though it may not work out. There's not just me though and I don't know what I should do?
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Fearthewalkingdead · 13/07/2015 00:40
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