So, I recently returned to the dating scene after my long term monogomous relationship of 16 years broke up. My ex-partner had been cheating on me for many years. Details scarce but mostly it seems he had not been having protected sex. We both had STI checks for the usual, and all clear.
So, I just had my first sexual experience and it was a casual one night fling. We had oral sex, it was great. But he has now contacted me, saying that he thinks he has contracted herpes from me! And has blisters on his tongue. I have never had any symptoms, but from reading around the subject, most gential herpes carriers show no symptoms and can occassionally shed live virus and infect their partners.
I feel very stupid that I didn't use protection...do people actually use dental dams? I have never even seen one for sale next to the condoms...How can I get tested if I don't show any symptoms? I understand there might be a blood test but that it might not distinguish between HSV1 (the facial/coldsore virus), which I do have and HSV2 (which normally causes genital herpes). I feel like my whole future sex life might be totally screwed over by that cheating ex-partner (who never had any symptoms either, but maybe he too is asymptomatic)??
Sigh.
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Herpes question...can't post under 'sex' but urgent..?
Octopush13 · 12/07/2015 22:31
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