My brother lives abroad and has a son 2 months older than mine (10 months). He and his wife have a visit planned here next summer, which we've really been looking forward to as we'll all be able to meet our nephews and the boys will spend some time together for the first time.
I've just learnt that for their 2 week visit, they'll be spending a week in the middle travelling to France to watch the football. So we'll have 3 days either side to spend some time together.
I'm so hurt by this, it will probably be at least another year, maybe 2 until they are back again. It's so hard not knowing my little nephew and only seeing him grow up via photos. I thought they would feel the same and feel excited at the opportunity to all spend some time together, but now it feels as though we're just a stop off on the way to see the football.
It will be a struggle to see much of them as it will mean taking two separate holidays from work and travelling home to our parents twice in the space of 2 week. OH is annoyed and said he's not going up there twice. I'm torn, I'm angry with my brother but want to make the most of the time we have. He has a lovely family holiday every year on top of this, so it's not like it's their only opportunity to go away.
What would you do? I'm worried the resentment will build up and spoil the time we have. But he has a history of making everything all about him and although we get on well, we have fallen out on occasion as he can be quite selfish and reverts to baby brother mode when he visit.
I suppose there's not much I can do, but vent. This was the only chance in years for our boys to get to know each other and he's prioritised football ahead of us.
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YellowPirate · 24/06/2015 10:50
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