Where to start.
My parents seem to be getting more and more judgemental in their old age. If someone does something they wouldn't do, they take that as a reason to actively dislike a person. It's driving me mad, and I can't have a conversation with them without them dropping into conversation how much they don't like x because they do y, when really doing y is none of their business.
Take df. He has a friend with whom he has fallen out because the friend's daughter had a small wedding. Df thinks it's a disgrace that the friend allowed the daughter to marry like this, and is now not speaking to his friend. Utterly ridiculous. So what if it's not what he would like? I try to say - diplomatically, as we had circus of a big wedding - that some people just want a small wedding but it's disgusting in his eyes and reason enough to fall out with a friend.
They've now fallen out with dm's brother. Why? Because he and his wife have spent some time overseas with a voluntary organisation in war-ravaged locations. He's a retired doctor fgs, well-off, children very much grown-up and I think it's amazing he's doing this. My parents think this is just awful; that he should be working for a living instead of galavanting around the world doing good. So now they've decided they don't like him, because he's doing something they wouldn't.
Dm can't comment on anyone without commenting on their size. She genuinely believes overweight people have no right to look nice, or deserve respect, or indeed any form of normal social discourse.
It's wearing me down.
Sorry for the essay.
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manchestermummy · 19/06/2015 20:59
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