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What does she mean ?

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harrydave Tue 09-Jun-15 19:26:54

I knew this girl since a year. We were good friends. Once, before she was leaving for another city, I told her that I would have proposed to her if her marriage wasn't fixed. I love her and would like to marry her. She/her parents had decided a groom for her whom she was supposed to marry in one and half year. She told me thanks and after that our communication through text messages doubled.

On Valentine's day, I messaged her "To the most beautiful girl I have ever known, Happy Valentine's Day dear Fairy. May God bless you always". She replied " Wowsmile Thank you so much. Thanks for being a part of my life. I am so glad we met at sdfdsfs (the place where we spent a significant part of our 1 year in close interaction)"
I replied "I used to wonder how I ended up at sdfdsfs. Now I know why" She replied "You made my day smile"

After this we have been interacting as close as before this, including texting and talking. But, we hardly talk/message romantic stuff. We admire each others work and most of our communication is centred around that and helping each other professionally.

I am unsure if she loves me and would like to take it forward. I am confused. Once she is back, I will clear things up soon by talking about this. If she accepts, I will be on seventh heaven. If not, very sad. But, I move forward with respect for her decision.

Based on the Valentine Day's messages above, what is your take ? Did she love me or were the replies just how a good friend would reply without hurting me ?

Blarblarblar Tue 09-Jun-15 19:34:23

What a difficult question. You can't tell that from a txt unless she said"I sure do love you"
Take it slow, don't push and see what happens when you see each other next.

bgottalent Tue 09-Jun-15 19:37:16

OP how old are you? I think your imagination is in overdrive

NerrSnerr Tue 09-Jun-15 19:43:04

There is nothing you can do unless she breaks it off with her fiancé. Imagine being him, he is engaged to this lady who is exchanging emotionally intimate texts with another man.

harrydave Tue 09-Jun-15 19:47:51

Sorry for not being clear, NerrSnerr. He is not her fiancé yet.

NerrSnerr Tue 09-Jun-15 19:53:50

Sorry, I must have read it wrong. Is the other guy on the scene at all? Is she planning to marry him?

If he's not on the scene then I think you need to just tell her how you feel.

Shadow1986 Tue 09-Jun-15 20:09:01

I think I understand but sorry if not.

It Sounds like you are coming on way too strong considering there is another guy on the scene.

I think she is flattered but just considers you a friend.

I would back off a bit and see if she contacts you. Then you will know how she truly feels.

KetchupIsNearlyAVegetable Tue 09-Jun-15 20:31:12

Your plan is a good plan. When she is back clear things up by talking to her. It is possible that she wants you, possible that she does not. Definitely ask her.

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