Hi, Im 30 weeks pregnant with twins.
Father of twins has known since day one about pregnancy. We were not in a serious relationship when I conceived. From 7 - 16 weeks suffered from Hyperemesis so didn't see him much as we dont live together.
Since I have got better we have been communicating via text, just small talk really, how we are etc. I have met up with him twice in the last month, 1st occasion just briefly to see each other as hadn't for a few months and last occasion was yesterday where he accompanied me to 30 week hospital check up.
He drove to the hospital in his flashy new car and I offered to pay for the parking and he just said "you got change have you" which I replied "yes" and I proceeded to pay, which I dont have a problem with. Not once during the time we were together did he ask if I wanted a drink or something to eat.
Since I told him I was pregnant in November he has not asked if there is anything I need for the twins or said what shall I buy for the twins.
I dont feel that I should ask him to help with buying essentials for twins, because I think that as a man he should know that he should of contributed something by now, even a tenner, something! Why should I have to tell him what he should already know, be doing. He has 2 children already and seems to look after them emotionally and financially.
Should I just accept that he is mean, or maybe he is waiting until twins are born to put his hands in his pocket. Dont want to get stressed about this but it is niggling at me. I dont like relying on people for anything and will do what I have to do, but I still feel that as the twins father he SHOULD of contributed something by now to the things they will need, no matter how small.
I would be grateful for some outside thoughts/analysis on this, thanks.
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AIBU to think that father to be of twins is mean
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Kemet · 22/05/2015 13:01
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