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Getting ready for the fallout....

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strong123 · 20/05/2015 11:34

Just need somewhere that I can write and for people to tell me if I am being unreasonable.

ExP moved out last April after 24 yrs together and 2 children. Things have been extremely complicated as we run a business together. To date he has paid no maintenance for the children, so I am posting a letter through his letter box later today to ask him to start paying.

He will not be happy and will probably threaten all sorts of things but I don't see why he shouldn't pay towards his own 2 children. He takes the attitude that as I work for our company and pay myself a wage, then that should be enough. I'm fortunate in that I have worked all my life and can survive financially without him.

I guess I am just not looking forward to the fall out from this but I know it is the right thing to do. I just feel ridiculous for feeling so scared of his reaction to this.

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Fudgeface123 · 20/05/2015 11:39

He should want to pay for his kids, he's the one being unreasonable. Really pisses me off when a partner has to ask the other partner to pay towards their kids, they should be falling over themselves to offer money. My DP agreed a set amount with his ex for their 2 girls, which more than generous, he never once considered not paying or cutting the money back.

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nicenewdusters · 20/05/2015 11:45

Your financial status and his legal obligation to support his children financially are completely separate, so as you say you know you're doing the right thing. He will know he's in the wrong, and nobody likes to admit that, so no doubt will react badly. Were there things about him when you were together that made you fear him, or is it just his behaviour since you split ? As to his threats, is there anything he can threaten that would actually happen, or will it all just be hot air ?

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strong123 · 20/05/2015 11:49

Thanks both for your replies - it has been his behaviour since we split that has made me wary of him. We run a business together and quite often he keeps threatening to stop working (which would stop the business). I don't think he would do it as it is his only source of income but he has been pretty nasty in some of his dealings with me lately - swearing a lot, slamming doors etc when he can't get his own way.

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pocketsaviour · 20/05/2015 15:57

He sounds very unreliable. Is there a way you can sell your half of the business to him or to someone else?

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pocketsaviour · 20/05/2015 15:57

Or buy him out?

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ALaughAMinute · 20/05/2015 21:56

Get legal advice! Now!

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Vivacia · 20/05/2015 22:02

Is the letter idea on professional advice? Confused

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Cherryapple1 · 20/05/2015 22:18

I would recommend going to CMO for maintenance, I don't think a letter through his door is a good idea tbh. Officialdom is better I think. Is he self employed?

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