What to do when DP's not being nasty as such... but just oblivious to the hurt he is causing? I don't know if these things are normal anymore...maybe they are and i'm being over-sensitive.
- DP can rarely be upfront about anything, and when I 'dig' to find out the truth, he will say he did't tell me because he didn't want to upset me/cause conflict. This happens about various things, big and small. We have spoken abut it LOADS, but he won't stop. I'm starting to think this is what most women deal with in any relationship, as he doesn't seem to think the impact is has on me is justified.
- We make plans for the future then I will find later on that he's been looking into jobs in Scotland, or looking at going to a festival on the dates we had discussed going on holiday. When I get annoyed at this, he says that is the reason he can't deal with telling me upfront.
- When something is happening in my life...heath wise, etc, or anything else reasonably important, he seems to give quite an indifferent impression towards me...he says the right things but it is as if he is doing so because in some way he knows it is the right thing to do...rather than coming from his heart.
Am I being over-sensitive here? He seems to have changed so much recently and perhaps it is me being over-analytical of his behaviour. I can't help feelign hurt though, and feel like I need a very thick skin to be with him.