No, I haven’t, however for the first time ever (that I know of) my friend is having an affair with a married man and I’m finding it really difficult to hear about it.
She’s still married to her Husband, however told him it was over in October (before she met married man) and moved out in December at his insistence – this is after 5 years of his emotional abuse which I’ve witnessed first hand when with them both (other instances involve telling her that the reason he had Erectile Dysfunction was because she was fat.. when she pointed out she’s the same weight as when he met her, he said it was also because she was older and ‘more jowly’ … and then saying he fancied her sister who had lost weight and would rather sleep with her )… So yeah, not a nice guy and definitely the right move for her.
Unfortunately – she then met this married guy at work.. and they kissed at the works Christmas party and slept together just before New Year – he’s married to his wife of about 20 years, has apparently cheated on her 3 times before with ONS, but has embarked on an affair with my friend for the last 4 months.. They’ve got 2 teenage sons and he’s waiting for the sons to go to University next year, before breaking up with his wife.
I’ve suggested she wait… and not sleep with him, but apparently he’s the ‘love of her life’… I’ve suggested that actually, maybe his wife isn’t the uncaring, unemotional person he says she is, however she’s hell-bent on believing him as ‘she’s seen the texts’ (yeah, the ones he’s allowed you to see…..)
She met up for a drink with a guy from her last work place and married guy went mental… saying he didn’t know if he could trust her.. saying he might have to break up over it- She wasn’t stupid enough to give in and saw her male friend, however it doesn’t exactly bode well…
I know she’s got him as a friend on FB… so I am pretty sure I could work out who his wife is – However, it’s none of my business and I don’t know what I’d want to happen. Ideally, my friend wake up that she’s doing a very shitty thing with someone who appears to be actually, very controlling and hardly pleasant – She asked me to meet him and go out for dinner but I flatly refused – I don’t want to meet him and I certainly don’t want her to talk about it, however up until now, she’s been very ‘normal’ and has never done anything like this before.