Getting my own back

[mumatha]

Today my partner has surpassed himself as a controlling twat and I would dearly like to get my own back on him.

In a nutshell, after some incredibly stupid antics on Xmas Eve (see previous post - thanks everyone who replied) we survived Xmas, largely because I gave, gave, gave - and, especially so because I did not want any more drama to upset my recently widowed mum.

Anyway, fast forward to New Year - quiet but ok. Still some needy, controlling stuff from partner but small scale. Do-able. Plus some good stuff from partner - yes, really.

Then today - on a day trip out I discover that he not only went through my bag on Xmas Eve while I slept and worked himself into a total lather over nothing, but that he HAD TAKEN MY FRONT DOOR KEY OFF MY BUNCH OF KEYS!!! SO I COULD NOT GET BACK INTO MY OWN HOME HAD I NEEDE TO DO SU USING MY KEY. i had not had occasion to use this key over the festive period, and, as I have large ish bunch of keys, had not noticed it missing.

I was livid, but now am calm. he cannot hurt me any more.

So suggestions please as to how I can get my own back on him. I live with him and am considering my next move - I know you are all going to say move out / on asap, and I will do so. but in my own time, and only after I have put him through something akin to the crap he has put me through.

[DPotter]

in one word - leave.

Just that - leave him and leave him wondering what you'll do and then do nothing...............

[BOFster]

Just fuck him off- why the games?

[AnyFucker]

Don't play tit for tat games

just leave without a backward glance and no word of explanation

that will be your best revenge

[BOFster]

What do you really expect? "Ooh, sew some prawns into his car seat"?

What the fuck is the point?

[handfulofcottonbuds]

I find putting mustard cress seeds on the carpet and turning the heating up works a treat!!

Seriously though, just go, or get him to go. Rise above childish games.

[TheCowThatLaughs]

The best revenge is to live well, innit

[dirtybadger]

What'll it be, road kill or faeces?

Alternatively just leave. Fuck it.

[AmantesSuntAmentes]

So, you don't like the things he does but you want to those things too?

Be the better person. Leave it and leave him.

[Waltermittythesequel]

Ffs why?

Just leave.

[ChristinaMatthews]

Get your revenge by leaving without warning or explanation. Keep your dignity - rise above his nonsense.

[Joysmum]

Getting yourself out of this mess is far more important than revenge. You're voncentrating on the wrong thing. The only thing that will make you feel better is to get free.

[Charlie97]

Another one here saying don't! Just leave with your head held high.

[Moniker1]

He has 'won' whatever happens as you are wasting hours and hours of your life thinking about him and your revenge.

You have won once you have a new life without him.

[FunkyBoldRibena]

How about this: change the locks whilst he is out and throw all his stuff onto the lawn/front garden.

Win/win

[mumatha]

FunkyBoldRibena - I like your style!

Thanks all, again, for your support. I know I should leave but mad as it sounds I still love this man. And it's just the sheer injustice of it all that pisses me off. I know it takes two to tango but I have really tried my hardest to be thoughtful, kind, fun, considerate and giving. And I just get grief back on a regular basis.

[Lweji]

Look, the only way you can get your back on him is by reporting him for stealing your own key to the police (this is abuse, you know?), getting a shit hot lawyer and serving him divorce papers.

Trust me, he will hate that the most.

Anything else is just shooting yourself on the foot, because you are playing the game.

[MorrisZapp]

Don't fuel the drama. You can't get your own back, he doesn't care. Leave him and have a lovely stress free life.

[gamerchick]

Being with this man has got you to the point you want to inflict the same torture on another human being. I understand that but it's fucked up.

Where will it end if you go down that road?

[Tyzer85]

OP stop adding to the drama and simply leave him, it'll piss him off more than any pathetic idea of 'revenge' will.

[AnyFucker]

You are staying with him then ?

[FunkyBoldRibena]

I know I should leave but mad as it sounds I still love this man.*

Well, your look out love. What is the point of having eyes ears and a brain if you refuse to act upon what you see, hear and witness?

[Waltermittythesequel]

You love him but want to fuck with his head because he fucks with yours.

Do you even realise how unhealthy that is?

[Joysmum]

If you love someone, you don't deliberately hurt them as he has with you or as you want to do to him.

I question your 'love' for this man and his for you

[Trills]

You sound very immature.

You also sound as if you need a good slap, for your own good.

You want to "get your own back" but you also want to stay with him?

Neither of those things will do you any good.