My DM stayed with us over xmas & did her usual thing of declaring 'facts' & statements, which, well aren't actually true & in fact her opinions. Sitting on the sofa yesyerday with my DH, she says she doesn't get on with my because I'm so aggressive & argumentative. She says I take after my dad (they are divorced).
When I was growing up, she did the same & being an only child, I just nodded & went along (& probably believed it).
Around about my 20's I realised I was separate from her & started not agreeing with her. Needless to say this didn't go down well at all. So much so that if she's says she likes something or more precisely "isn't that fabulous" & I disagree, she'll say "well I might have known you'd say that!" AND becomes very agitated. Its ridiculous things like, she stated her & her boyfriend sould go to tenerife & stay at puerto de la cruz because its so green. "its green because it rains every night". I said no it doesn't. Which was like torch paper. Her eyes flashing (& blood pressure increasing) she snarls "yes it does Granny says so". Now granny went there in 1972. I went there is 1997 & can categorically state it didn't rain for the 2 weeks we were there.
So DM & I are in this loop where she spouts rubbish (Lloyd Grossman pasta sauce is the best) & I challenge it. I look back at my DGM & see her with this same attitude, but what DM did was agree. Well that's not me.
I've done the "what makes you say that, why do you think that ? who says so, etc.? " retorts & been called a terrorist.
What's the answer ? Should I just shut up & say yes dear ? IMO she talks rubbish.
My BF says she's lived alone for too long & gone feral....
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willowisp · 28/12/2014 14:51
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