Over the last few months my relationship with my brother has become very strained.
My brother is married but he and his partner have decided to end the marriage but continue living together. His partner has now moved a lover into the house while my brother continues to pay most of the household bills. My brother has said he is fine with this but I'm not so sure. I feel that my brother is attempting to keep his partner in the house at all costs as my brother really can't live without him. I spoke to my brother on the phone about it and told him I was worried about him being taken advantage of. He got really mad and screamed at me the entire phone call. He told me I was just like my dad, homophobic, that I blamed his partner for everything, it was like being back in the 80's...etc he also told me to 'fuck off' so many times. I didn't shout back and tried to just talk to him. Eventually I said I'd call him when he'd had time to calm down and rang off.
My brother has a nasty temper and everyone in the family has always tiptoed around him in case he 'went off on one'. It's always been like this and he has pretty much been allowed to talk however he chooses to the family and no one ever pulled him up on it. I feel I have let him get away with so much in the past. When DM died we split the funeral costs between me, my sister and my brother. Me and my sister paid straight away but my brother dragged his heals for months and I was chased for payment by the funeral directors and threatened with debt collection as the funeral was booked in my name. I've never forgotten how sad that made me feel. When my DM died my brother was on his hols abroad at the time and his partner decided that they were not going to come back early as he wanted my brother to 'enjoy' his holiday!
He never bothers to ask about my DD even though she is only 5 and has just had an operation. Not a card for her birthday or text. He just couldn't give a damn even though she is his only niece. He barely even talks to her when he visits, just to the other adults in the house.
It's just one thing after another with him and now I'm worn out. On Christmas Day he decided to delete me and my sister from his facebook and Twitter account so I guess that's it.
AIBU to want nothing further to do with him as he is so impossible?
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AIBU to go NC with brother
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Angleshades · 26/12/2014 22:10
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