I stopped all contact with my mum several months ago. I told her via email that I never wanted to see her again. She's in the process of divorcing my dad and her behaviour towards him now (she cheated on him for two years) is cruel and I can't bear it any longer. There's a long back story of her mental health issues, selfishness, nastiness towards me and my sister from a very young age etc.
My sister is still in contact with her and she makes comments to my sister like 'oh, it breaks my heart not to be in touch with ginger' 'when ginger has her baby (I'm 35 weeks pregnant) will anyone even tell me?' I have no intention of telling her the baby has arrived or ever contacting her again despite her living in the same town as me.
I am really pleased with my decision, it's taken a huge weight off my shoulders but I'm finding her not making any effort to make amends or contact me just eerie. Let me really clear, I don't want her to, it's more that I find it a little unsettling and I keep expecting one of her massive emotional scenes. For example, When I'm on my own in the house, I am scared to answer the door in case it's her - all full of shouting and tears etc.
She didn't send a Christmas card or present which I was half dreading (she's before sent extravagant gifts/ cheques to guilt me in to something or other). She didn't even send my sister a gift or card which is weird as they are still in touch...
I'm sad that I will never have the kind of mum that most people seem to have, sad that I don't have any maternal support during my pregnancy or early baby days but I accept that my mother can't do any of this and that it is best for us all to cut contact as contact is so draining, stressful, nasty and vicious.
I just wondered, from your experiences, is it really possible that she's really gone from my life or is it reasonable of me to expect some kind of showdown (like her turning up when baby is born)?
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Eerie silence - what happens next when you go NC with your mum?
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GingerbreadPudding · 26/12/2014 12:30
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