I posted on the AIBU board but was told to post on here instead, Been together for 4 years, He was generous and nice to begin with now he's the opposite we moved in with his mum because he didn't have enough money for a mortgage to buy somewhere we rented a flat at the time so we moved in he said it would take 6 months max, it was hell to be honest i got PND and felt like I couldn't bond with baby cause his mum was always around. It took us a year to move out then he drops the bombshell he doesn't want my name on the house cause I haven't worked for it (Im a sahm with dd) family told me to go along with it so I did but I have a lot of resentment towards him, He never gives me money i have to ask him for some he has around 13k in his bank account and I have 30 quid (seriously) I only have CB I was working at mcdonalds evening shifts until 2am but I couldn't get up with DD in the morning properly OH wouldn't help me pay for DD's childcare for a couple of hours in the morning I was knackered so I unfortunately had to leave. I've got a place to study nursing next year, OH yet again doesn't want to help pay for childcare and expects it to come out of my student loans, he wants me to claim as a single parent so he doesn't have to pay anything towards it and he can save towards paying off the mortgage, he says he's doing it for "us" but i see no evidence my name isn't on it and I could get into a lot of trouble.
I get nervous & stressed about asking him for money, seriously I even lie about what I've spent money on, I'm not talking a designer handbag or a pair of shoes, I'm talking a bottle of coke he has a go at me all the time about money , my clothes are all ancient it just seems so unfair he has 13k in his account and I've got nothing. He believes I don't work and I haven't earn it it's making me upset but I have no idea how to leave where to go. etc, I want to work it out but can someone like him ever change?
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Leaving OH cause he's mean with money
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yellowxo · 23/12/2014 12:56
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