Not sure where to start here.
My father was a violent alcoholic who died nearly 6 years ago. My brother is also an alcoholic and was living in a homeless shelter for part of the summer.
He reconciled with his girlfriend a couple of months ago and they have a gorgeous baby together. She is trying to sort herself out as has had a lot of depression etc. Her son lives with his dad after my brother previously turned up at the school drunk (this is why they split up and he eventually landed in the hostel).
I have been in contact trying to support them but it is obvious that my brother is also violent towards her and it feels like history repeating itself. She is trying to hold it together but I can see it's like a pressure cooker there- he is doing the cycle of remorse and trying hard and she thinks it's okay for a bit. Until it really isn't again and he kicks off.
She needs to get him out of the house and I am trying to be there for her but I don't live nearby and can only contact her via facebook messenger. I've already had to call the police about some really worrying messages from her that stopped abruptly- I honestly thought he could have seriously hurt her. He realized it was me and doesn't want to speak to me any more, which on the one hand I think okay bollocks to you but on the other hand feel desperately sad about it as I was the last link he has to the family (my mum can't cope with the drinking and the many incidents we've had with him). He has completely untethered himself from normal life and I feel the only way can be down unless he has a massive epiphany.
I am so worried about his girlfriend and my niece and am not sure what the best thing to do is. I feel like I'm watching a car crash in slow motion but feel totally powerless to stop it.
Sorry, I know that's a garbled mess. There is so much more but I'm trying to summarize shitsville into something vaguely reasonable to read!
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Feeling helpless watching my alcoholic brother destroy his life and his girlfriend's
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Imaffronted · 15/12/2014 11:57
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