Namechanger, long term poster (Cod, moldies, SWMNBN etc)
Short and sweet but hopefully all the details.
DP and I together 2 years. I'm currently pregnant with our first DC. My first marriage broke down after ex's affair (true MNer I LTB and didn't look back)
DP recently showed me his FB account and said 'oh look a friends request from X' (X being a girl he was sort of seeing for a few mths before me). She had requested him then cancelled it straight away but he still got an email notification which is what he showed me.
We had talked about her before in a "past relationship" kind of way but she was the only one he seemed a bit cagey about. I couldn't put my finger on why but left it as she had left the country and it didn't really seem to matter.
Anyway a day after the friends request I noticed him on his phone looking at her profile (we have a hatch between rooms and I walked behind him). I didn't say anything and he had put his phone down when I came into the room. I put it down to curiosity (who doesn't look up old ex's on FB occasionally?)
Today it was playing on my mind a bit and I logged on his FB 
. He is open with his password.
She is not in his search bar (which you can clear). But he doesn't seem to know that if you look at the activity log and filter searches you can see all the searches which have been run recently.
15 fucking times in the last 4 days 
They aren't friends on FB. There are no messages. He can't request her as she has it locked. So all he can be doing is looking at her 4 profile pics and that's it. Over and over.
Ok..benefit of the doubt some people are just nosey...? Or actually there's a point it just goes past nosiness and something is up? Thoughts?
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Am I being paranoid?
Theredandthewhite · 14/12/2014 21:28
Oh dear.
Hopefully someone with something more productive to say will come along but no, I do not think you are being paranoid.
He has clearly been checking her out several times a day for some reason. This must be a real kick in the teeth especially when you are pregnant. I would be livid but I am not sure what I would do.
I think I would either let it run for a few more days and see if he continues to check her out, or I would confront him now and see what he has to say.
I think you are sensitised to infidelity and, as a result, you are being overly suspicious. Your DP is entitled to some privacy. So are you, for that matter. He was open about her getting in touch, you know she's out of the country and that should be where you left it. Logging into someone else's FB is the equivalent of opening their post...... It's bad form The only saving grace you've got is that you're pregnant and you can plead temporary insanity. Because if I was your DP, I'd be pretty annoyed.
Half disclosure? He mentioned he'd been contacted by an old girlfriend in another country, showed the OP the communication and his biggest offence..... if I'm reading it right.... is that the OP interpreted what he said as 'a bit cagey'. The OP doesn't mention that the relationship has been struggling, that there's any ill feeling, any bad behaviour ... nothing, in short, to suggest that this is an unfaithful man waiting to happen. So if she's jumpy and getting a bad feeling the answer is to talk to tis man, be honest about her insecurities. Not hack his FB account as a first step.
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