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Splitting - where to start?

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ConstanceGoesFishing Wed 10-Dec-14 19:02:13

Husband and I are separating. Not much decided other than we can't live together anymore. We have an 18 mo DS. I am mostly a SAHM but have recently started working part time at weekends. House is in husband's name. We've been married less than a year.
Don't know really where to start sorting this mess out. I've only told one person so far, and DS and I will be spending this christmas alone. My head is buzzing with questions and I really don't know what to address first? Should I try to go full time at work, or should I stay as DSs primary carer, where will we live, how will I support us...etc.
Anyone who's been here ....where do I start?

LittleDonkeyLeftie Wed 10-Dec-14 19:50:52

Sorry to hear you are having a rough time.

As you have been married less than a year neither of you can instigate divorce proceedings yet so you can put that on ice for now. It still might be worth seeing a solicitor though to advise you of the best way forward.

If I were you I would not work full time yet, but again it depends on your earning potential and your ability to get free childcare?

How long were you together before the marriage? If it wasn't long then you will probably just get 15% of his take home pay for DS and not much else.

Are you safe? If not is there anyone you can go to like friends or family?

I am sure wiser Mnetters will be along to help soon thanks

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