My in laws treat me and my family like non entities, including their son/my partner and I'm sick to the back teeth of it. I really saw their true colours after the birth of our first child. His mother used to call her by different names for the first twelve months of her life because she couldn't remember her name..no she doesn't have a mental illness to excuse this. I lost my older sister whilst I was 7 months pregnant as well as being extremely ill after I had my little girl, had a c section that went wrong..they offered no help whatsoever, in fact they stayed away and we didn't hear from them for months at a time. When it came to my dd first birthday I invited them to the party..it wasn't a kids, just a small family get together. They phoned two days before with a weak excuse as to why they couldn't come, my OH told them if they didn't come he would cut them off..I was furious as I didn't want them coming under duress. They came and brought my little girl a card that said 'to a friend' on the front..it was the type you get from the corner shop. Last year on her second birthday they sent her card 4 days late, and this year it was 2 days late..they said they'd put £10 in for her, but in fact they'd taken it out and never given her it.
When my little boy was born in June this year they never even came to see him, my OH dad didn't even congratulate him or ask how our little boy was doing when he phoned them to say I had given birth. It was two weeks before they saw him and that was only because my OH took him up to see them. They live approx 5 mile away from us and have their own transport so it's not as if they're house bound. I used to really try with them, inviting them down for meals, always bought all their birthday, xmas cards etc..despite them never buying me one in all the years we've been together.
The problem now is my little boys christening which we plan to have in the new year, I don't want them there..I've totally had enough of his family behaving like they do with us. These stories are only the tip of the iceberg on the stuff they've done to us..I'd be here all night typing out if I were to tell you everything! My OH knows they treat us all badly but his excuse is, he's used to it because they've always treated him that way...well I'm not having my kids being treated this way. They don't treat his brother and his kid like crap so why us. I'm at total breaking point, to the degree that I'm questioning my relationship with my OH. I was so angry when it was our little girls birthday a couple of weeks ago that I told him to pack his bags and go live with his scumbag family. Am I being unreasonable by not wanting them at our ds christening?
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Had Enough Of In Laws!
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foxxxyblonde · 08/12/2014 21:44
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