She's been getting odder over the last few years.
Not old, late 50s. But is ill and on a variety of medication.
She's started getting het up about silly things. Disabled parking, for example. She has a blue badge (but before this used my grandmothers as her own). She now watches other people and 'judges' whether or not they're disabled enough to warrant a badge and makes comments. Doesn't give a shite whether or not people can hear.
Recently got quite irritated by two girls in the disabled bit at Tesco and had a bit of a rant. Only shut yup when I pointed out they were walking to an exit and didn't even have a car... 
She's said a few hideous, tactless and frankly ridiculous things about gay people which makes me pretty uncomfortable.
She also appears to be racist. Often comments on immigration and asks why * are 'here'. Again, this can be said loudly in supermarkets and stuff. (I know far too little about immigration to have an opinion on it. But I do like the variety in foods culture and kind of feel like 'the more the merrier'.)
I don't get it. Why is she suddenly like this? She never used to give a shit about such things.
It's making me not want to hang out with her. And I'm getting more and more reluctant to leave DS with her. She's ruined a nice evening tonight by asking why a certain nationality are 'here'.
It's tact. She has no tact. I know we all think bullshit things (I have negative thoughts towards dogs) but we keep our gobs shut, right?
Where did her tact go? And how do I deal with it.
I'm also worried she's going to get punched or something.
What to do?
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My mum has become racist/angry. How to handle?
KingJoffreysHasABigWhiteBeard · 03/12/2014 20:09
Sorry if I'm off the mark, but could she be attention seeking? My FIL who is old and ill and gets loads of input and attention from us all, likes to be the centre of attention at all times and as soon as he feels remotely left out makes awful remarks.
We have done the defence thing over and over but in reality the best thing is to ignore him. If your mum publicly insults someone, I would walk away. Completely refuse to engage or become involved.
I, incidentally am disabled and hope for her sake she never confronts me.
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