I have a massive dilemma here. DP lives and works in Switzerland and has just got a permanent job, replacing his temporary contract. We've been together a year before he left and a further year since he has been abroad.
DS is 16 and in college - it's a one year course, but it's expected he will do two further years.
I have so many issues here I don't know where to start. I want to live in Switzerland permanently within the next 2-3 years but I also want to be here for DS. He is open to the idea of moving too, but I would feel rather useless trying to support him in a foreign country IYSWIM.
Much of my confusion is due to lack of information and research, I know, but I know that I love my son, I love my DP, I want to move to Switzerland and I want DS with me (for entirely selfish reasons).
I need to process all this and make a plan, but my pros/cons lists aren't helping. I think I mainly feel guilty for thinking about what I want, as opposed to burying it and thinking about my son. I've been a LP most of Ds's life. The questions are whirling around in my head, so some feedback would be appreciated.
I think relevant information would be: DS is my only child, he has no contact with his father. I am self employed and this would be transferrable based on mastering basic German/Swiss German. I have family in the UK. I have no savings or assets. DP earns a very good salary. My equivalent earnings would be massively increased in Switzerland.
Can anyone relate or help me make sense of it all please?
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LuisSuarezTeeth · 28/11/2014 20:28
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