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Tobewhatistobe · 14/11/2014 20:54

I don't know where to start with this question. Other than to ask if anyone has experienced or is experiencing anything similar. My mum I find very weird sometimes in that she just doesn't get what I'm trying to explain to he. Everything is oh ok. Really. Like it's nothing. And I will be telling her about some quire serious issues. The following week or so later she won't bring up what I talked about. It's like it's not happening. I'm just a daughter talking to her mum but she's in her own world where if it's not happening to her it's not happening. It makes me feel like she void of feeling anything and yet she wants to keep me on the phone forever ... For company I think. It's very annoying. When growing up I wasn't close to her. I never had that daughter mother relationship in any shape it form. Not conversations about anything. In fact I hated her for distant ness but as I've got older and perhaps as she has grown tired of her man she has gravitated more towards me, albeit in a limited capacity (by my definition anyhow)

Do I sound strange or us this common? She's a 1950s baby not old.

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HumblePieMonster · 14/11/2014 21:02

Is she on anti-depressants or anti-psychotics? My mum was drugged down for years.

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Happymum1985 · 14/11/2014 21:05

I can see why this would make you feel frustrated.. like blood out of a stone. It sounds like something isnt quite right. Its definitely not normal to react this way.. Do you think she could have some kind of autism?

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Tobewhatistobe · 14/11/2014 21:10

She's not on drugs she's always been this way. She just doesn't want to get involved with anything on a deep level I think. She doesn't offer advice at all the way you would expect an older prison to, especially as a woman talking to a woman. I just find her so strange. I come off a call and think what was the point of that conversation it is like talking to a wall. Sometimes I feel she uses me for company. She doesn't have ant sense of responsibility for me as a daughter but I've always known and felt that. That's not new. Perhaps knowing this I shouldn't expect so much. I'm going to stop talking about my life to her I think.