There's an issue in my life that I know needs to be resolved one way or another. My dad.
We used to be really close. Over the last few years, we have suddenly developed this weird relationship that is hard to explain. He has become more difficult as time passes, he's very passive aggressive and a little bit bitter.
We had drifted apart mostly, until not long after I had met my DP, he (DP) took it upon himself to call my dad and ask him to call me so that we could try and rebuild our relationship.
I was pretty pissed off for a bit, but I know that it was meant well, so I went with it, and we started talking a bit more. It was/is still kind of awkward.
My mum (they've been divorced for 40 years) had had breast cancer the year before, had a mastectomy, and had dealt with it so bravely and stoically, which I really didn't expect, she's a bit of a drama llama sometimes, and I expected her to go to pieces, but she was completely the opposite. Then my dad got prostate cancer, and it was a completely different story. I know it frightened him, and although he's better now, hopefully, it's just made him even more self-involved than he was before. I know that sounds harsh.
He has no relationship with my kids, he sees them once every few years, and the final straw to prompt this thread was that he didn't even text my dd on her 17th birthday last week.
I honestly don't know how to deal with it. If I'm honest, I want to tell him to fuck off.
But, you know, he's in his 60's, and he's also had a few heart attacks over the last 15 years, and I don't want to say anything I will regret.
But he adds absolutely nothing to my life. My kids don't know him. I don't actually like him much.
Can anyone help with some advice? Sorry this is so long!
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DollyDreamboat · 13/11/2014 21:03
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