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Mediation - what to expect and what financial paperwork do I need to gather?

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suspiciousandsad Thu 13-Nov-14 15:33:56

Sorry if this has been done to death on here but we have our first joint radiation session coming up. I've spoken to the mediator and she seems lovely, but I really have no idea what to expect.

Also, I have started to compile copies of paperwork. I have this years pension statements, P60s, salary slips, bank statements and the last mortgage statements. I'll dig out any ISA/saving statements. Have I missed anything?

Thanks!

suspiciousandsad Thu 13-Nov-14 19:57:42

It's mediation, not radiation. Tsk.

getthefeckouttahere Thu 13-Nov-14 19:59:59

Ha but radiation would leave you with a lovely warm glow afterwards!

suspiciousandsad Thu 13-Nov-14 20:01:32

More than STBXH ever did then!

Fontella Thu 13-Nov-14 20:10:19

More than STBXH ever did then!

grin

RandomMess Thu 13-Nov-14 20:11:09

grin

suspiciousandsad Thu 13-Nov-14 21:27:01

Bump smile

suspiciousandsad Thu 13-Nov-14 23:22:28

Anyone?

TeapotDictator Fri 14-Nov-14 06:38:48

In our first mediation session I don't recall being expected to turn up with much in the way of documentation - although I suggest asking the company directly in case they do.

In our case, they asked us in advance to give an indicator of the agenda we would each like. They told us that rather typically, we had opposite agendas. I wanted to discuss money (he wasn't paying us anything) and he wanted to discuss contact (he wanted 50-50 and I didn't think that was in the children's interest). At the end of the first session they gave us their financial disclosure forms which we were to complete before the next appointment.

IME mediation only works if you have two people who are willing to be 100% compliant in the process - because the mediators have absolutely no power to make you be compliant. Unfortunately I am now embroiled in the court process and my ex is still refusing to comply.

Good luck!

AttilaTheMeerkat Fri 14-Nov-14 07:02:48

You may find that mediation turns out to be a completely wasted effort.
I would certainly agree that mediation only works if both parties are compliant; in relationships where there has been abusive behaviour, the abuser never co-operates.

Zebraface Mon 17-Nov-14 20:38:16

Hi op,just found your thread,not sure if you got the answer you need.

My mediator told us what they expected, 3 wage slips, bank account summarys, etc. Basically just go prepared with all your expenditure,you have to be open & honest !!
& just to be the voice of doom my xh agreed to settlement,then went back to solicitor to write up,who then changed his mind & off we went to court....1 months bloody wages wasted!!

Anyway,its worth a try. Good Luck,whenever it is. Glad I don't have to ever face that w€¥$¢r again

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