OH, DW, DP etc etc
Do they listen to you?
Reply to you?
Engage in conversation with you about topics other than what they want to talk about?
I can say something to him, and he'll look at me as if he's going to reply, but doesn't, either totally ignores and goes back to what he was doing, or will say something that has nothing to do with what I said.
When he does reply, I'll mention it later and he won't know what I'm talking about and we have to have the conversation again.
It's driving me mad. I'm now trying to not talk unless it's worthy of a conversation as he's said I talk too much and that's why he doesn't listen. Or thinks I'm talking to the baby, so I'm just zoned out to him now. Yet sometimes I'll say something, he'll ask me to repeat, so I do, and then he ignores me anyway.
This isn't all the time, but feels like a good proportion of the time. It's just so annoying / upsetting / a bit pathetic when I feel like I can't have a conversation with my own DH..
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Does your DH listen to you?
Hobby2014 · 12/11/2014 10:30
he's said I talk too much and that's why he doesn't listen
This rang a bell with me, hobby ....
I have to admit that my DP has said in the past that I'm self-opinionated ( 
he has a point - I have an opinion about absolutely everything! blame MN for that!) - I have been guilty of talking too much (my excuse is that I'm interested in just about everything in life!). He felt drowned out, so he zoned out sometimes.
I've learned to pick the right moment if I want a meaningful conversation (when he isn't cooking the dinner, or we are working on other things) - I have learned to hold back and allow him to speak (rather than it just being a Daisychain monologue) - that has helped our conversation flow a lot.
It sounds from your OP that maybe you both need to go back to the basics of conversation and not do a 'blame-game' as to who is right or wrong, but talk about how you communication, what he likes/doesn't like, what you need/what he needs, just as DP and I had to do. It has helped our relationship a lot, we are still learning and making mistakes 
Don't write him off as a lost cause! He may have a point.
He sounds emotionally abusive tbh, he's messing with your head 
No. My dh doesn't listen to me. I don't talk that much, but if I talk about something important, then dh doesn't say much and changes the subject.
Then he asks about the important subject I've talked about, but have already told him about it 
I'm now trying to not talk unless it's worthy of a conversation as he's said I talk too much and that's why he doesn't listen.
It sounds more like you're trying not to talk unless HE thinks it's worthy of a conversation. If you deem it to be worthy of a conversation, then surely it's worthy. 
I'll be if you told him that he talked too much and he needed to "not talk unless it was worthy of a converation" that he would be less than happy.
Yes my OH listens to me, I don't know if I listen to him though. He is like the woman in the relationship he talks so much! 
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