My friend split up with his ex, he has ended it about 5 times in the 3.5 years they were together and she always pleaded with him to stay. He's a very caring person & can be weak, I think he struggled with the guilt at upsetting someone so he gave it another go time and time again but recently he's accepted that it will never work and left her.
She is controlling and rarely let him out the house to see friends, she went through his texts etc. He's now left her & got his own place but she keeps calling him and asking him to go and see her which he does although I am certain that nothing sexual is occurring.
He feels like it's helping her to see her as it isn't so harsh on her to cut off contact, but I think it's unfair on both of them as he's doing it to feel less guilty but it's not really helping her come to terms with the break up & get on with her life.
Obviously it's none of my business but I thought it might be worth getting some other opinions on how healthy or normal it is to continue hanging out and staying in contact so soon after a split. My concern is that she thinks that she will win him back and that he is actually misleading her, and giving false hope, also that she is not respecting his decision or feelings that he ended it with her and she can't let go of him.
It's not my place to get involved but I am interested in other's views and experiences on this type of situation
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jakesmith · 10/11/2014 12:51
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