I can't cope anymore. I have been trying to tell DH how unhappy I am with our circumstances and him for ages (years, really). He tells me he will change but doesn't.
He inherited our house - it's where he works (think similar to farming). Over the last four years, I have grown to hate it. The house is freezing and decaying and depressing. It is literally falling apart and I often find it hard to sleep because it is so cold. I am embarrassed about having people over. My DC love the space (rural), they're pretty hardy and like that FiL lived here before us etc.
DH has depression and is not at all productive. Nothing gets done unless I suggest it and I have to say it over and over. We row about every three months after he's not done something crucial. Meanwhile, I have worked my arse off for our finances. I change, evolve and try to find solutions but he stays the same. He's a bit 'helpless'. I've tried everything: anger, praise, support, standing back, spoon feeding - nothing works. It's like dealing with an alcoholic - he's a fuck-all-doing-aholic. He DOES do stuff with the DC, but never anything motivated or new - I have to suggest that.
Anyway, I'm sick of it all and just want to run away with the DC. He says he doesn't want to leave the house. I HATE the house. And I'm really close to hating him.
But I don't actually hate him completely (yet) and I am just feeling so fucking sad about it all. We used to get on so, so well. We have a lot of fun when we're away from here. I know I love him. It's just he wants to be here and I don't. But now I feel like I don't want him to come with me when I go.
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I need to separate but I am still in love with DH
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NotAtHome · 09/11/2014 19:52
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