ive always had a niggling concern about something that happened before we actually married. when we were planning the wedding I knew my parents wouldnt contribute financially but my husband's parents would, purely because culturally that is expected. I wasnt bothered because I had savings. Money I had saved for a deposit for a house. Anyhow, his parents gave 'us' a cheque for the wedding one day whilst we were together. Yet I didnt realise later that this became his half of the wedding cost. Again, at the time I knid of didnt pick up on it because I was so in love and this money I was using was for want of a better word 'our money.' Now, fast forward a couple of years into the marriage and its apparent that finances are squarely separate and he is earning for himself, not for any type of partnership. This makes me harp back on this initial paying of the initial wedding itself. Is it unreasonable of me to have expected this cheque to go into a pot and then split the rest of the costs? Or was it in fact his money alone since it was from his parents. would love to hear some opinions. In my mind it should have gone into a pot. This action that he took has actually set a pattern of future behaviours, such that I didnt envisage.
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