I don't know if this has been discussed before. I very recently told my OH that I don't want to be married to him. The DCs are reaching independence (1 left already). He seemed devastated - although this would be more emotion than I have seen in a long time. He doesn't want to split stating that his whole life/family/home will be ripped from under him and thinks he would lose contact with the children as well as me. He doesn't have a lot of friendss and is not very sociable (part of my problem with sharing my life with him). I don't hate him, although he has done many things to hurt me in the past. I have feelings for him, like a relative I suppose (he's 16 years older than me). He's proposing a novel living arrangement - granny flat or separate parts of a new house, so he's not alone and the kids still have a family base. My problem with this is if its not officially out there that we are no longer a couple then the world still sees me as married and I can't move on. Does anyone else have experience of this kind of living arrangement and how has it worked out?
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