Hi all I am a regular but have named changed.
Finally got my divorce through - yippee!
My ex of over 20 years has, in my opinion and that of all our friends who do seem to want to voice their opinion, has been unreasonable on all levels.
Without making this long and tedious but not wanting to drip feed, ex hasn't done the decent thing regarding any aspect of the divorce. I don't expect to be best friends with him but had hoped that he would at least have cared more for our dcs.
He left us in substantial debt to the point where I have been threatened with a repossession order on the family home . He didn't have the decency to tell me about the secret debt he had been accruing to pay for his seedy lifestyle.
He wouldn't pay towards this debt or the mortgage, wouldn't agree to me taking over the debt and mortgage.
Wouldn't commit to seeing the dcs, has broken their hearts to the point where my dd1 has been referred both to counselling and the gps by her school who have been incredibly worried about her due to herfather's actions. She is embarrassed to be related to him and wants us to move away where nobody knows who she is.
Ds has been put on report so that he has a male member of staff to monitor him and offer support.
Ex has packed in work so as to avoid paying any maintenance.
On the incredibly rare occasion when the dcs are permitted to see him he tells them that he will not feed them and not to ask for food infront of his gf(who was ow) or her 4 dcs.
He never, ever sees them without gf being present my eldest dcs hate her.
Today, after a difficult spell with my ds I told him to ring his dad and tell him he would be coming to see him as I needed a break. Things had got physical and I needed ex to speak to him.
Well ex basically told me to go and fuck myself. He was going out with his gf in an hour and no ds could not go. It's a 5 minute walk. He told me that dcs is my responsibility and not his.
I know my ex is a knob. Feel this is so unfair . He is destroying my dcs.
Thanks for reading.
I shouldn't have rung ex but he does absolutely nothing. Sneered down the phone at me to sort out my son(who is biologically his).
Why am I letting him bother me, perhaps it's the thought that only a psychopath could be so cruel.
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Eustasiavye · 02/11/2014 22:29
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