i will try not to drip feed and apologise in advance if this ends up too longwinded. I have been with my DH for 10 years and have worked together for 10 years. It is a GP surgery (hope this doesn't out me). dH is a gp and i work in reception. Theere is another lady there who has been in reception for one and a half years. She is well liked by everyone and a bubbly and flirty person. Her and my DH have always got on very well, share the same sense of humour and are very jokey together. I don't believe there is a physicsl attraction between them but they definately seem close (don't see each other out of work tho as DH doesn't tend to socialise anyway).
In between surgeries DH often seeks out company of other receptionist above other work colleagues, to have a laugh and kill a bit of time etc. he does chat to me briefly too but not the same, and he knows i like to get on with my work and worry about other people thinking i am taking advantage cos im a drs wife, if i were to mess about etc. anyway, everytime they are chatty together and she is all flirty it makes me angry and upset. I don't tend to say anything about it but our marriage has been a bit distant over the past year, tho DH making much mor effort this week as we had a big talk last weekend about stuff. I know he loves me, and i do have a tendency to be jealous and insecure - due to my own lack of confidence/ history. Howeve, i also know that she is in an unhappy marriage and was keen to meet someone else outside her marriage (got dunk at last years work do and told lots of people).
Anyway, i did mention last weekend that although i didn't think anything was going on, it did concern me that he seemed to have more fun with a colleague than me. But things have been exactly the same between them this week. I thought he would have eased off. Anyway, i made a couple of arsey comments to him when alone about it and he later text me to apologise for upsetting me.
So, where do i go from here? I am not good at playing it cool and it really upsets me when i see them together. Am i just being paranoid? I don't actually believe he would cheat on me but i do feel threatened by all of this in some way. Do i just need to grow up?
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Should i be worried about my DH and this woman at work
MillyMollyMandy78 · 31/10/2014 18:01
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