Stbxh has our son this weekend. Ds is 3. He's unsettled just now from us splitting up and losing our home. Stbxh is still there but wouldn't leave so we had to.
I got nasty text earlier telling me not to let ds nap before visits again cos it meant he didn't sleep till 11pm last night. Plus he had been off with his older cousin and had sworn. Stbxh says he is concerned. Asks if I need counselling (!!!) and he'll pay.
I haven't replied. I won't be drawn in. It's futile. I just don't want to play these games.
Feel really down. He's put me through hell since ending our marriage and he won't ever let up. He's just going to carry on bullying me forever.
We're doing mediation soon. I'm dreading it. But he'd just drag me to court if I don't go. I'm not strong enough just now. My solicitor thinks should try it. I'm just seeing it as lesser of two evils but so scared. He's gaslighting. Trying to make out I'm unstable when it's his actions that cause the upset. He just wants to carry on abusing me.
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confusedNC · 04/10/2014 22:44
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