Hi
I'm baffled by this.
Sometimes when DP is drunk he'll tell me an anecdote that he repeats, and it gets wilder and more exaggerated each time. and the weird thing is that what he tells me are things that are offputting about him. It's almost as if he is looking for a reaction, or thinks in some way I'll be impressed or he's bigging himself up, but it's all stuff that makes me think either he's making it up and being a twat if he thinks it would have impressed me, or it's true and it's stuff I don't like. I 95% think it's made up. He then later retracts what he said and can't explain why he said it. I 5% think it might be true as from comments from one or two people he knows, and things he's told me when he was sober, make it clear he was quite a 'lad' in his past.
It's just weird. Why tell me these things?
Examples
- according to him he gets chatted up quite a lot. The last anecdote was about being chatted up by a 67 year old woman. These ones make me laugh - he's a sociable chatty sort of bloke, and I wouldn't be surprised if he's one who takes a friendly response as a chat up. That, or he's making it all up all together. If he's trying to make me jealous it doesn't work, I just think he's making himself sound silly, and wonder what he's trying to achieve with these stories.
I'm more worried about his argument stories, in case they are true. (I don't think they are, but they could be). He tells me about an argument with someone and the story gets wilder and wilder with more and more swearing involved, and actual/threatened violence on his part. Last one he had an argument with a shop keeper and the story ended up with him threatening to smash up their shop. And before that he complained in the Post Office and the story developed over several tellings to involve loads of 'get me the fucking manager now' ranting type of thing (then the next day he said of course he hadn't actually sworn at them). Before that he ran into someone he didn't like who mentioned knowing where we live and the story started off with him telling this man it's none of his business where we live, and after a couple of repeats had him holding this man by the throat and threatening him to keep away from us.
DP has been in fights in the past (I know this is true) but he's in his 50s for goodness sake and should have grown out of all this. I'm also not impressed by it. He also talks about knowing all the local 'bad' people and hard men and keeping on their good side but not being one of them himself (at which I roll my eyes, hard men are dicks as far as I'm concerned).
DP acts normal, looks normal, has a normal family, is not aggressive or nasty to anyone that I've seen. People we meet are friendly and not nervous or anything around him - he knows loads of people in this town and we are constantly bumping into people saying hi to him. (I'm not from round here).
I'm pretty sure he's exaggerating and making these things up. Anyone got any theories why? Or do you think it's possible they are true and he's just letting his true side show to me when he's drunk? He knows I wouldn't want to be with a thug type.
I'm sure