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2nd date...still not sure.

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superstarheartbreaker · 26/03/2014 23:27

I had a second date with a guy. He is really nice but I am not feeling a spark ATM. I do like him though but I just can't picture us getting intimate.
He is likely to be one of those sweet boyfriends who will treat me well but do I give him a chance if I don't feel desire for him?

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superstarheartbreaker · 26/03/2014 23:29

I guess we do get on really well but it is enough.
In the past all of the men who have really turned me on have been horrid.

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brokenhearted55a · 26/03/2014 23:39

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 27/03/2014 04:49

I think it would be a mistake to assume that, just because the men you find sexually attractive have been horrid so far, you should go for someone who does nothing for you physically. There's no logic in that. 'Nice/sweet' are good qualities but it's unfair to get his hopes up if all he's ever going to be is a friend.

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superstarheartbreaker · 27/03/2014 06:16

True cognito. I don't want to settle. In fact the thought of getting physical with him is a bit gross. Such a shame as he is nice.

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Sleepinmummy · 27/03/2014 07:29

I went on a date with a guy and didn't like him but thought he was sweet but didn't fancy him or even like him much, but we worked for the same company (but rarely came in to contact at work). We kept in contact and as I wasn't busy we met up occasionally for the cinema, coffee etc. After a month a friend who knew us both said that there was something between us....we decided to give it ago....then once we'd dtd I started fancying him like crazy - we were together 10 years.

So if you like the chap maybe give him a chance as feelings can change.

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Zeeeon · 27/03/2014 10:45

Wow, do not continue dating someone if the idea of shagging them is "gross" to you!