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2nd date...still not sure.

(8 Posts)
superstarheartbreaker Wed 26-Mar-14 23:27:45

I had a second date with a guy. He is really nice but I am not feeling a spark ATM. I do like him though but I just can't picture us getting intimate.
He is likely to be one of those sweet boyfriends who will treat me well but do I give him a chance if I don't feel desire for him?

superstarheartbreaker Wed 26-Mar-14 23:29:06

I guess we do get on really well but it is enough.
In the past all of the men who have really turned me on have been horrid.

brokenhearted55a Wed 26-Mar-14 23:39:19

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

CogitoErgoSometimes Thu 27-Mar-14 04:49:52

I think it would be a mistake to assume that, just because the men you find sexually attractive have been horrid so far, you should go for someone who does nothing for you physically. There's no logic in that. 'Nice/sweet' are good qualities but it's unfair to get his hopes up if all he's ever going to be is a friend.

superstarheartbreaker Thu 27-Mar-14 06:16:11

True cognito. I don't want to settle. In fact the thought of getting physical with him is a bit gross. Such a shame as he is nice.

Sleepinmummy Thu 27-Mar-14 07:29:44

I went on a date with a guy and didn't like him but thought he was sweet but didn't fancy him or even like him much, but we worked for the same company (but rarely came in to contact at work). We kept in contact and as I wasn't busy we met up occasionally for the cinema, coffee etc. After a month a friend who knew us both said that there was something between us....we decided to give it ago....then once we'd dtd I started fancying him like crazy - we were together 10 years.

So if you like the chap maybe give him a chance as feelings can change.

Zeeeon Thu 27-Mar-14 10:45:29

Wow, do not continue dating someone if the idea of shagging them is "gross" to you!

JeanSeberg Thu 27-Mar-14 10:46:49

Agree with Zeeeon - my acid test is can I imagine giving them a blow job. wink

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