Hello. Ive just got into a new relationship about 10 days ago and struggling to make time to get to know each other
I am a single mum to 4 children aged 8, 5 and i have 3 year old twins and he has 2 boys aged 7 and 4 I work as a part time waitress/barmaid and he works long full time hours I try to get my hours in whilst the kids are with their dads which would ideally be a nice time to arrange a proper date. He has his boys Friday night through to sunday unless hes working.
Ive had a few relationships since not been with my ex but nothing serious its always fizzled out and ive tried not to let myself get too deep to avoid hurt ive had with exs but this time i really feel different i know its only been a short time but we do get on so well and feel really comfortable round him. He says he feels the same he really is lovely and i hope my feelings are right it will go further but just seems like there are obstacles in the way.
So we got together saturday before last after spending all night talking to him at his cousins 40th party (my next door neighbour) I had met him a few times previous and always got on ok. He stayed over at mine but we didnt sleep together just talked all night and had a lot of cuddling think something would of happened but was time of month (tmi sorry).
After that we spoke on the phone lots of txing and fbing until the Thursday when my youngest 3 went to their dads for night I just had my eldest home so invited him round and we got a take away was lovely, I feel quite mad with myself as i didnt want to have him (or anyone round whilst kids were there) but we really wanted to see each other I spoke to my daughter before hand and she said she was fine with him coming round, he ended up staying over which again not proud of while any of the kids were there but 1 thing led to another and he has to get up at 3.30am anyway to go home for his work stuff.
I was hoping to plan a proper date with him at some point but weve either got no childcare or work is getting in the way, we met up with the kids on saturday and took them to local play gym i did feel this was a bit too soon but just really wanted to see him and it feels like its the only way to spend time together. H e came round monday night after work for a couple of hours we tried to watch a dvd but kept getting disturbed, so I agreed to let him come over to stay the night last night i feel so selfish for it and dont want to make habit of it but its the only way.
Im child free Friday night only this week but hes got a family event to go to which hes invited me to but think its a bit soon to meet his parents and siblings although i have met them breifly via neighbour but not as his gf and then working over weekend as is he so dont think be seeing him again. I dont know how to do it. I dont want to rush it but at same time trying to grab every opportunity.
Any advice greatfully recieved
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mummyOF4darlings · 26/03/2014 09:36
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