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Met a great guy..

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confusedandlost · 24/03/2014 00:08

I've recently met a great guy after doing the online dating thing for so long.

We have the same hobbies, outlook in life, our childhoods were similar etc etc. He's so gorgeous and is such a lovely person. We've only known each other for about a month, recently had our first date and looking to go on our second. No mind games, nothing. He's been great.

The problem...

He has a really well paid job and comes from a higher class family, who are all well off.

I have a good paid job but come from a poorer family. We are not that well off.

He hasn't asked me about my family background or anything but for some reason I feel really below him. I am really humble and I don't like big flashy brands or items. My parents live in a small house, his parents live in a big manor.

I like being humble and coming from a humble background. I just wondered if this would be an issue in the future? Anyone been in a similar position?

I just feel insecure.

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 24/03/2014 08:51

If you're insecure or feeling inferior, the only person who can resolve that is yourself. You've not known him long but the man you describe doesn't sound like a snob. If you 'like being humble' on the other hand, you risk being an inverted snob. If you know you resent people who have money or nice possessions, then it is going to be a problem at some stage.

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Hassled · 24/03/2014 08:54

"I like being humble and coming from a humble background."

Could it be the case that actually you're judging him rather than the other way round? He's not making any assumptions from the sounds of things - but maybe you are?

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thedrunkenduck · 24/03/2014 09:16

OP try not to worry. I had nothing when I met my OH- I was a student who was struggling to get by and he was already working as a banker in London and had the "flashy" lifestyle.

I was terrified about meeting his parents- but they were lovely and took a real interest in who I was and what I was doing with my life. Always made me feel welcome from day one.

I have to agree with Hassled here.

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kaizen · 24/03/2014 09:48

How do you know your childhoods were similar if you haven't spoken to him about your backgrounds etc?