Hi
Told our DS this morning that we're separating. Tried to make it sound a mutual decision (although it was actually mine).
DS has just come up and told me it's my fault and that daddy wants to be with me. I've just tried to explain that I was young when I got together with daddy and that we've both changed over the years and don't have as much in common anymore and don't make each other happy. I tried to relate it to his friends, he's friends with people he has stuff in common with, like football, etc. He seemed to get that but then said me and his dad have loads in common, like we are both in our thirties and have brown hair! I don't know if DH been saying anything or if DS is working it out for himself because his dad's upset. I told him that although I'm not crying I'm upset too, and it's ok for him to cry because it is sad for everyone but we'll all be ok. I said that daddy's got lots of family and friends to look after him but he just said but he won't have you. I said I'm still daddy's friend and I'll always be there for him.
Is this a typical reaction, to take sides? Do I need to speak to DH and ask him to hold it together? I really really feel for him but this is no good for DS. I would prefer it this way than the other way around (that would kill DH), but I'm worried my own relationship with DS will be damaged so much.
Anyone have any experience to share?
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Told DS about separation
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Bigviking · 22/03/2014 21:29
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