My kids have both been terrible sleepers, they are now 7 and 3. We have tried so hard to be strict, we have a nightly routine that we rarely deviate from. We've tried every 'intervention possible' making sure we give everything a chance to get established. We have success for a day or two and then it goes back to being bad again. they are lovely kids in the daytime although very tired.
DD(7) claims to have 'nightmares in her head' when she tries to go to sleep and becomes really hysterical and wakes up/keeps awake DS. DS generally goes to sleep but is prone to waking up for an hour in the night and shouting really loudly for us or coming in our bed.
It's got to the point where DH is sleeping in the spare room more often than not (as he works long hours), I have given up my job as can't cope with lack of sleep. Our physical relationship is suffering. The sleep deprivation and lack of mental space is making us both really angry and we have resorted to shouting to get the kids to go back to bed and stay asleep.
It feels like we are at a crunch point, my DD announced to another Mum at school that I had shouted 'shut up' at her - which I did after hours of messing about at bed time and making so much noise I thought she would wake DS up. It made me feel dreadful. I am losing my temper all the time. I can't understand how we have got here. Both DH and I were apparently bad sleepers as children.
Has anyone got any ideas? I feel like the shittest parent on the planet right now. Would just completely refusing to acknowledge them (apart from illness or a really genuine nightmare) after 7pm work?
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lavesh · 21/03/2014 10:19
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