Having a few problems with our marriage of 5 years. We have 1dd (4yrs) and one Ds (2 yrs) beautiful kids. Everything should be perfect but I feel like our marriage has lost all it's magic and sparkle and we are drifting further and further apart. We've had a variety of issues which seem better now - including him being quite resentful and negative towards me. So I don't know whether I still haven't truly forgiven him for how he has been in the past.
It's weird but we can get on well and be ok and then I get into bed at night next to him and feel terrible. All these thoughts go through my mind like how we are not suited and why am I wasting my life with this man etc. it will often drive me to say something and then of course it makes it worse.
My main problem is that I just don't feel special anymore. That might sound like a really immature thing to say but it's true. I somehow need him to make a fuss of me and cherish me the way he used to and somehow I feel we have lost that.
He is much better than how he was, I have to admit. But there is a lack of excitement about the future and I have to instigate any plan which makes me feel like he doesn't really want to do it.
I've suffered with anxiety and low mood so keep thinking - is this me?? Then I think, hang on, I need someone who is going to enjoy my company when the kids aren't around. dh is not a big talker at all. If I want to do something I usually go out with my friends or go out on my own. Otherwise we are out as a family.
Should we do a date night?? Or councilling? It's like we have forgotten about how to maintain and look after our relationship.
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Am I expecting too much? Do we need councilling? Or just a date night per month
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Sunblushsister · 20/03/2014 11:53
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