I don't know what to do. I have been with my OH 15 years and love him very much. In many ways he is a kind, thoughtful and amazing OH.
A few Christmases ago I discovered my OH was drinking a lot - mainly because the recycling wasn't collected for a couple of weeks and the amount of beer cans in there was ridiculous. I asked him to cut down (we were trying for a baby) and he agreed.
Since then on numerous occasions I've found empty bottles hidden around the house, including one time when I found a bin bag carrier full of them hidden in the shed.
On all the occasions he pretends they've been there for ages/feigns surprise/blames me for being controlling/says he only has one or two.
About a year ago we had a real heart to heart about it. I explained his lying and sneaking around was breaking my trust in him. Since then all seemed ok, he only drank on weekends and I didn't find any empties.
A couple of months ago we discovered I was pregnant, after years of trying. We are both delighted.
However last night I found hidden bottles again - in his work laptop bag, behind books on the bookcase and on top of the fridge.
I'm so angry I can't bear to even look at him. I'm sat upstairs whilst he is downstairs because I can't bring myself to be near him. I feel like there's nothing to say to him I haven't said before. This is supposed to be a happy time and now I'm worried and anxious again because I don't understand why he is doing this or how much he is drinking.
Sorry for long post. I don't know what I expect to get out of this thread but I just don't know what to do.
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Namechanged27 · 19/03/2014 18:44
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