I posted yesterday about my situation. Thanks for all the good advice.
Basically Exdp & i parted before Christmas. I gave birth to dc4 6 weeks ago.
Exdp hasn't been to see any of the dc since Christmas til last weekend. He met the baby last weekend.
We were talking on the phone last night & he said that I always ' go funny' after giving birth. That i never gave him any credit for anything he did...
Actually it's that I expected sod all from him but they were the only times I needed some support. I must point out after dc1&2 I was very ill with retained products & infections. Dc3 was easier but dc was very challenging as he has ASD & ADHD but weren't aware of why he was so difficult.
It's not too much to expect a dp to cook the odd dinner, look after the dc or even take care of the mother of their child in the days after a baby is born.
AIBU? I got so angry last night. He either is incapable or choses to ignore that I might need/needed support. Yet he wants me to care for him after having major, life threatening surgery that is likely to take place in the next few months.
I had a MMC last year. He didn't even turn up at the hospital. I was sitting there dressed & ready to go home when he eventually turned up. His excuse? He had hoovered the house & cleaned out the goldfish.
When ds was due to be diagnosed he was working nights & just didn't come home... ds wasn't diagnosed. It took another year. He didn't & wouldn't come to 1 appointment.
In the name of God I've wasted nearly 15 years with this stupid man child!!
How do i make him see my point of view or to understand???
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Shellywelly1973 · 19/03/2014 09:52
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