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Strained atmosphere at home - protecting DC

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wonderwhattodo Tue 18-Mar-14 12:20:09

Have a few problems with DH at the moment
And we aren't speaking
He might be moving out soon

How can I make the atmosphere as normal for DC as possible?

It must be horrible being stuck in the middle of two people who are not getting on.

But what can I do for the DC? Too young to explain it to them but old enough to pick up on an atmosphere

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 18-Mar-14 12:43:07

You can't make the atmosphere normal for them, unfortunately. All you can do is end the unpleasant stuff as quickly as possible. If he might be moving out, make it sooner rather than later.

scaevola Tue 18-Mar-14 12:47:29

I agree, there isn't much you can do to explain a standoff.

So either you decide he is leaving or you both decide on a whole hearted effort to put things right, which includes normal communication.

Nomodrama52 Tue 18-Mar-14 13:26:48

I am going through exactly this right now. My Dcs are young but they still know things are wrong.

I am just giving them more attention and giving them more hugs and kisses. I spend more time with the older dc asking him about his day at school and things like that. I tell them not to worry and everything will be ok and they don't need to worry about anything at all.

There's not much else you can do except as the prev posts said to get out of the situation as soon as you can, either way.

It's horrible for everyone involved, I hope things get better for you all x

wonderwhattodo Tue 18-Mar-14 14:24:23

Thanks all
It's helpful to have your advice
Sorry nomoredrama you are going through similar

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