So not to drip feed. Myself and my DH have had some brilliant times this year and some lows too...
We've adopted a little girl 6 months ago and we, and her are doing really well, we have a birth dd who is 6.
However my DH has had a bit of a breakdown. Over Xmas he was ill, think bad flu, and after that started saying things like he felt 'something was missing'. He stopped sleeping for more than 3 hours a night, got obsessed with his weight, went fasting for days and has lost nearly 2 stone, he's started getting anxiety attacks and the doc has put him on medication for that and depression.
Having had depression and anxiety some years ago I've tried to be as supportive as possible, even tho he wasn't in the least bit supportive to me he didn't get me anything for my birthday (the day was shit tbh as he was moody and unhappy) and was very self absorbed (I know this can be a symptom of depression). He's not been himself for obvious reasons and not a great person to be around but I've tried to make it as tranquil as I can for the kids etc. Especially with the little one. I feel terribly guilty she's had I whiteness this especially after the upheaval of moving to us.
Anyway last night I asked him to do something over the weekend (for me) which would have meant moving one of his plans - nothing major. Anyway he moaned and complained and I'm afraid to say I lost my rag. We had a blazing row and he slept on the sofa ( not unusual in its self with his insomnia )
Anyway we've been bickering through the day over the phone and I've just got a message from him saying he's not coming home.
I'm beyond annoyed, I'm hurt and upset.
All I asked was he change his plans and it was like I'd asked him to remove a limb. I know I should be more supportive and bite my tongue, but sometimes I'd like to come first. And now he's punishing me and I have no idea how to react! I can't even bring myself to text him back or call him.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
Want to vent
6 replies
Thebluedog · 14/03/2014 16:45
OP posts:
MatryoshkaDoll ·
14/03/2014 16:57
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
MatryoshkaDoll ·
14/03/2014 17:40
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.