At the ripe old age of 31 I have experienced infatuation for the first time. It is/was with someone I'm in a FWB thing with. For months he consumed my thoughts and fantasies, not the I want to marry you and have your babies, but the I want to rip your clothes off kind of thing. Each time I met him it was like a fix, and it made me feel 'high'. The thought of not seeing him again made me depressed but then I just concentrated on the meeting someone new. This guy is now backpacking round Australia and has made little contact and to be honest I've not been thinking about him naked or ripping his clothes off for some time, so I know the infatuation effect is wearing off.
oh yes, at least twice. Am having one right now (as in, at the moment,not RIGHT NOW IFYSWIM . If you are free and able to act on it bloody do..its great. Even the absolute biggest ones do wear off though (I know, I'm married to one of mine and he's lovely and everything but we're past the 'have to get naked right now stage'.)FWB I think are a fab idea if all parties are on the same page in terms of what is and is not on offer.
Thanks fairy it has been great to act on it, but it's not something that's sustainable. He is hot and I want to rip his clothes off all the time I think of him, but in a relationship he'd drive me insane!
Yes! So hard to get over if you never get to the day to day relationship stage. Massively addictive and makes it near impossible to think straight. Probably not very healthy in the long run... (I'll keep trying to convince myself of that one)
Interesting to hear that in those that do get to that stage it does wear off.
It's never got to a day to day stage an because we've only seen each other a couple of times a month it's like a build up.
It's like being a drug addict. It's made me feel irrational. It's not just how hot he is but him as a person, he is great company.
His travelling around oz and lack of contact has been a bit cold turkey and actually not been painful.
I think whilst I wish I haven't had these crazy urges meeting this man came when I was really down in the dumps following an awful breakup. He made me feel amazing about myself - something my ex never did.
Because of the connection and we got on so well I'd love to have given a relationship ago, except we live far apart (why we only met a couple of times a month). Plus he is very unreliable and I'm the complete opposite - on a daily basis it would drive me insane and no amount of amazing sex could make up for that!