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Anyone ever been infatuated?

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breaking2bad Thu 06-Mar-14 16:26:54

At the ripe old age of 31 I have experienced infatuation for the first time. It is/was with someone I'm in a FWB thing with. For months he consumed my thoughts and fantasies, not the I want to marry you and have your babies, but the I want to rip your clothes off kind of thing. Each time I met him it was like a fix, and it made me feel 'high'. The thought of not seeing him again made me depressed but then I just concentrated on the meeting someone new. This guy is now backpacking round Australia and has made little contact and to be honest I've not been thinking about him naked or ripping his clothes off for some time, so I know the infatuation effect is wearing off.

Has anyone else experienced this?

fairylightsintheloft Thu 06-Mar-14 17:05:26

oh yes, at least twice. Am having one right now (as in, at the moment,not RIGHT NOW IFYSWIM grin. If you are free and able to act on it bloody do..its great. Even the absolute biggest ones do wear off though (I know, I'm married to one of mine and he's lovely and everything but we're past the 'have to get naked right now stage'.)FWB I think are a fab idea if all parties are on the same page in terms of what is and is not on offer.

breaking2bad Thu 06-Mar-14 20:22:37

Thanks fairy it has been great to act on it, but it's not something that's sustainable. He is hot and I want to rip his clothes off all the time I think of him, but in a relationship he'd drive me insane!

somedizzywhore1804 Thu 06-Mar-14 20:32:41

Yes- twice, and I can only compare it to a kind of madness to be honest.

I married the second one so it is calmed down and all okay now but I remember when we were first together it was a bit like a drug. When we weren't together it was like withdrawal.

The first one was worse really because it never became a "proper" day to day relationship so we were kid of obsessed with each other and the obsession never wore off.

You have my sympathy. It's not entirely pleasant.

Choccywoccydoo Thu 06-Mar-14 21:04:40

Yes! So hard to get over if you never get to the day to day relationship stage. Massively addictive and makes it near impossible to think straight. Probably not very healthy in the long run... (I'll keep trying to convince myself of that one)

Interesting to hear that in those that do get to that stage it does wear off.

LineRunner Thu 06-Mar-14 21:07:15

It is a good thing it wears off because it is bloody exhausting.

cheapskatemum Thu 06-Mar-14 21:12:57

Please excuse my ignorance, what's FWB? I can't see it in the acronyms list & can't work it out.

scornedwoman67 Thu 06-Mar-14 21:19:34

cheap its 'friends with benefits' x

cheapskatemum Thu 06-Mar-14 21:26:51

D'oh yes, thanks!

breaking2bad Thu 06-Mar-14 21:32:18

It's never got to a day to day stage an because we've only seen each other a couple of times a month it's like a build up.

It's like being a drug addict. It's made me feel irrational. It's not just how hot he is but him as a person, he is great company.

His travelling around oz and lack of contact has been a bit cold turkey and actually not been painful.

I think whilst I wish I haven't had these crazy urges meeting this man came when I was really down in the dumps following an awful breakup. He made me feel amazing about myself - something my ex never did.

StarGazeyPond Thu 06-Mar-14 22:29:15

Yes, someone much younger than me. Lasted a few weeks - and I felt a right prat when it all faded 'cos a lot of people knew about it blush

breaking2bad Fri 07-Mar-14 20:17:27

Star - when I spoke about this guy to friends they could tell I was infatuated by how I spoke about him!

KatieScarlett2833 Fri 07-Mar-14 20:37:30

You've been dickmatized OP.
you lucky bitch

Dinnaeknowshitfromclay Fri 07-Mar-14 20:46:37

Dickmatized ! grin

breaking2bad Fri 07-Mar-14 20:55:50

I just had to google it - it's a real thing! I certainly have. He has been the best sex I've ever experienced, but I knew it'd never last forever.

KatieScarlett2833 Fri 07-Mar-14 20:58:04

I was once dickmatized too. God he was so sexy, couldn't keep my hands off him. Shame, he turned out to be an utter arsehole and had to be dumped.

fluffyraggies Fri 07-Mar-14 21:04:45

Yep ... twice. First time was with XHs brother blush Never acted on it. Went on for years. I'm pretty sure the feeling was mutual.

Second time - i married him! My lovely DH. Yes that stage is exhausting, the sex is amazing, and it can settle down into a meaningful love.

breaking2bad Fri 07-Mar-14 21:11:35

Because of the connection and we got on so well I'd love to have given a relationship ago, except we live far apart (why we only met a couple of times a month). Plus he is very unreliable and I'm the complete opposite - on a daily basis it would drive me insane and no amount of amazing sex could make up for that!

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