So my and DP have had a rocky road - firstly he is younger and very good looking, girls have even chatted him up in front of me. When our DS was about 4 months old I found out that he has lied about something huge in his past- not female related - but something that has lead to me lying to friends and more importantly all my family which breaks my heart. I have asked him to come clean but he says he knows they will hate him and doesn't want that to happen. This also means we can't even get our families together in case something is said which means no joint birthday parties or the like.
But ultimately before all this came out he used to say he was the worst liar ever and I genuinely believed that. I could tell a mile off when he told a white lie or was being cheeky and on a wind up. But now I doubt EVERYTHING and just can't seem to bring myself to trust him. I feel like if I do I am just setting myself up to get hurt again. I do understand why he lied and it was a lie that started before I met him and he felt he had to carry on.
I have never been a particularly secure person in relationships but now it is off the scale. All of this was bundled up with PND after DS and I know for the last 2 years I haven't been particularly fun to live with and I question everything. He has had many reasons to walk away from me and has stuck by me. I now get myself into a state everytime he goes out - he doesn't like to 'mix' his friends so I never get invited - as I just think well if he could have lied about something so major.....
How can I build trust back in him? Our relationship is going down the shitter rapidly.....
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MoreSlummyThanYummy · 01/03/2014 11:27
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