Hi
I finally managed to end my 'relationship' with ex partner six months ago, though it took me until one month ago to finally make him move out of my house. We had a loveless relationship, slept in separate rooms for five of the six years we were together and all the past promises he made of loving me forever, wanting to marry me tomorrow etc never came, basically he dangled a carrot to me and never fulfilled. I finally got rid of him after I'd told him that other than dd I had no reason to live, but he didn't care and just went to bed, not a care in the world, basically it took me a long time to realise it would be a life of misery with him.
Sorry for the waffle, just some background. Now he's started to text me claiming he's desperate to see dd (2) can he come round this evening etc. Thankfully I have an email from him from a few months back where he agreed to having dd on a Saturday but he have me residence. He asked for no overnights.
He hasn't had a job for a few weeks now, so in theory he could have dd on any of the four days she goes to the childminder and when I'm at work. But he's sending me texts saying he wants to come over when it's my time with her and just before her bedtime etc, hardly a good time to see her! I suspect he just wants to come to my house, give me the sob story etc (so far he's told me he has no heat, no cooker, to washing machine etc at his new house, all of which I know are not true).
He also has dd for an hour four mornings per week when he picks her up and takes to cm and I'm at work.
He's had the option for more access but hasn't taken it, surely he can't just text me randomly and ask me to see her/come over? I'm scarred he's going to try to claim I don't give enough access. In actual fact, even on his Saturdays he tends to give her back to me at lunchtime, not the end of the day!
Thanks for any advice.
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difficulties with emotionally abusive ex, advice please?
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hoppingElephant · 24/02/2014 16:29
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