All fine except for past year or so dh and I griping and annoying each other. Quite often I wonder if I like him as a person.
Ds has just turned 1. (And we have dd who is 3). So we are tired and still in baby stage.
I think it took dh at least 8 months to bond with ds though they have now. He admits this himself. I think it took less time, four months or so, with dd and lots of this because she was poorly and I think he was holding back emotionally in case worse happened.
His workplace is tough at the moment - structural changes and people being 'disappeared' at short notice. So he is working long hours and it is on his mind all the time.
But he is short with me and the kids and far less affectionate than he used to be and generally grumpy. He is neglecting me (physically, emotionally) and crap at doing stuff round the house unless I specifically ask him to.
Also his mum was quite ill and he is only child. So lots of reasons for him to be sad and withdrawn.
In other ways he is great. When we do get time together it is nice. And when I initiate sex he responds. But he doesn't initiate. We do stuff as a family and he is always one of few dads at birthday parties etc and we make sure weekends are times as a family. But whenever we have a nice day eg yesterday it ends with a row. Or a day begins with a row then becomes nice after the row. But always at some point a row.
So my question - is this just part of the rocky road of marriage with young kids and all will be well? Anyone else had years that weren't great but come out of it with a strong marriage they want to be in. It's seven years and maybe I just have the clichéd itch.
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Anyone ever had a bad year with dh but they got through it and all well now?
Chrysanthemumtea · 23/02/2014 10:22
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