Hi, I am a regular but have namechanged to avoid rl stress.
I have been with my ' dp' for 14 yrs, we have 3ds's 10, 6 and nearly 4.
We've had our fair share of ups and downs, we've had a few breaks but got on really well apart and ended up back together.
I am unhappy, we have no sex life and what we have had has never been anything other than disappointing and painful for me. No affection and we don't talk. He is not interested in me. I try to keep everything together and everyone happy but it's making me miserable.
I grew up in a lone parent situation and have done everything I can to keep our relationship going for the dc.
I had resigned myself to putting up and shutting up but I'm lonely and frustrated.
The difficult thing is I'm feeling like a selfish cow. Is it fair to put my wants first over my boys? They adore him.
Is it normal after so many yrs together for things to be a bit stale? Is crap sex, lack of affection and communication good enough reasons to shatter a family? It feels like such flimsy reasoning?
Views needed pls
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how can I make a decision that affects everyone and is selfish?
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hadenough2014 · 22/02/2014 23:05
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