So, we split last summer as he was grumpy, miserable, disengaged and burdened by family life with a bit of verbal abuse thrown in. This behaviour was entrenched. He does however love the girls 9 and 11yrs old. He lives in a flat (one bed) 5 mins away, has them EOW which fits with my work pattern which is also EOW (a big bone of contention when we were married despite him saying he fully supported my career). He tends to prefer to have them from Sat rather than Fri so Sat morning to Sun 6pm. My work pattern just changed so by the time he sees them it will be overnight once in three weeks. He did not ask to see them last weekend. No phone call/text or anything either. This level of contact comes as a surprise to me. I actually asked him to spend more time with eldest after Xmss. No real attempt made there either. Does this sound a bit paltry? Should I ask him outright to see them more??? I feel he should be more proactive about contact. But then again I was saying this for the ten years of parenting when we were together.... WWYD?
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Handywoman · 17/02/2014 13:46
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